I did read the thread. In the OP's original post, she described behavior that was not kind. I was stating my opinion that the boys should be called on that behavior.
Having an opinion different from yours does not mean that I lack reading comprehension skills.
In regards to your bolded statement, I made it quite clear that the boys are in the wrong, and that they need to know it:
it's important that the boys gain some understanding of your DD, too
An email to the teacher explaining your DD's plight might be in order, as well. It might be quite effective if your DD's teacher could give a quick lecture on gentlemanly behavior. Also, anytime your DD is made upset by the boys, she should be reporting it to the teacher.
educating the boys is also necessary.
Hiding her feelings would make it difficult for the boys to recognize that they've done anything wrong.
Without that vital feedback loop, it would be extremely difficult to change their behavior.
There is no difference of opinion.
