So glad i found this thread. My DD7 is very negatively vocal and critical (of me in particular.) She scratches and bites her brother when she can't think of a come back, and they fight *a lot.*

Almost every day she tells me she a) hates me b) I'm the worst mother in the world and c) asks her dad "why did you marry her!? why dad?! (which we both find kind of funny.

She also tells me she hates what I'm wearing, and wants to know why I never wear anything "pretty." It's very hard sometimes.

I'm going to try the books recommended. Hopefully something will work.