Hindsight is 20/20...though with these kids, I'm not sure *that's* even true! The "what if's" can make you certifiable! I think you have to get a pass on that one, Dottie!

My sniff test: Did I do the best I could under the circumstances I was given at the time? There's no point in worrying that you blew it when you find out new info that you didn't have back then. You can't react to what you don't know.

Did you do the best you could with what you knew at the time?

And, of course, the all-important 2-part question: were you acting in your child's best interests, and did you do a gut check from time to time to be sure it was about your kid and not about you?

I think everyone commenting can say yes to both parts of that 2-parter!

Kriston