Could you send a reply politely fishing for more information? Something like, "It sounds like this might take longer than a normal 15 minute p/t conference. Should I block out more time in my schedule?... I'm happy to talk to the "team." Can you give me an idea why everyone has been invited? DH is out of town and if it's outside the normal p/t conference information, we might need to set up another meeting with everyone so he can be present too."
Maybe the teacher will give you some insights to help you make a better decision... or maybe just dodge your questions. But if you're polite, I don't think it will hurt.
Kathryn - that is exactly what I did! I am awaiting her reply. If she doesn't respond, then I am presently planning on cancelling the meeting in the morning saying basically that 'this seems more involved and outside the normal p/t conference protocol... in addition it seems like it will take longer than I have prepared for in my schedule, so we will need to set up another meeting with everyone so DH and I can be both be present. I would also like to know in advanced what the issues are so that we can prepare, etc...'
