Thoughts:

1. Bring a friend to take notes for you.

2. Treat it as information-gathering. Ask a ton of questions (and have your friend write down everything). When they assert things, ask follow-up questions so it's crystal clear what they are getting at.

3. If they ask to decide something you are uncomfortable with, ask to convene the team again after you've had a chance to consult your DH. You do NOT have to commit to anything on the spot.