IEP you get two weeks notice on official forms (not email) and two separate notifications with details about what will be done at the meeting (updating goals, exploring more evaluation, develop a behavior plan, etc.)
This sounds more like a really big p/t conference...if you feel uneasy cancel and reschedule, or find a friend to bring with you?
At the middle school if you want a pt conference and only need to speak with say the math teacher...you still have to meet with the whole 7 teacher team at least in the beginning and then some teachers leave. It does feel pretty much like you against them...but they all have roles...one takes notes, one runs the meeting, one has printed off all sorts of grade information off the online grading system, etc.
