As others have mentioned, information can be very helpful. Perhaps independent testing isn't in the cards. Would the school district do IQ or achievement testing?
Figuring out what your daughter needs can take some time. I believe we are all trying to share what we have learned and experienced, because the journey of parenting these kids is not a common one and there's a great deal of mythology far too many that educators (and the general population) believe to be facts about gifted children.
Have you seen this article about advocacy?
http://print.ditd.org/young_scholars/Guidebooks/Davidson_Guidebook_Advocating.pdfIt's long but very good. Might be worth going through as time and your energy levels permit.
Another crazy (yet perhaps useful) idea just occurred to me. You could try calling the principal you met with prior to moving your daughter to the current school. Although she is at a new school, she may be able to share some tips or ideas.
