Is there a district gifted/talented coordinator? That is who we mostly dealt with when we were discussing these issues when my DD was accelerated. As it turned out, there was a district policy about acclerations that was brand new and no one had used it before, so the principal, school psych, etc. weren't even aware of it. They had a "process" kids needed to go through with classroom observations, ability testing, achievement testing, etc (and they had score cut-offs, for instance scoring 98th-99th percentile) and it had been more informal previous to this new policy. However, I would imagine that in your case the asst. superintendent would know what the policy is. I'd still ask to see it in writing, though. It must be frustrating that you were told one thing, and now that you are actually there you are being told something else.
