I can understand your viewpoints but I was there and I dealt with it as I saw fit. My child learned and their relationship strengthened. This little boy, who has to deal with a lot of questions and other children reacting negatively found DD to be a good friend as a result and someone he could trust to be with.
And she learned to not be "factual". Yes, she was and she had to learn not to be so. We are dealing some adults in the family in a similar manner and I had to take them to task on a different issue. She had to learn not to see the glass as half empty for this boy but half full.
And learning to apologize hasn't weakened Dd. I was just complimented today by another mother that it is rare that a child is as confident as DD. We were discussing her child redoing K, common practice to red shirt in NJ.
She is front and center of every situation.
Ren
