If on the other hand you believe that kids are born with a desire to learn and get along with others but they often lack the maturity, resources, and skills to do so - then shaming them and forcing them to apologize makes no sense.
I believe that kids are born with different levels of desire to get along with others (some with much, some with little, some with none). That my DS has autism surely shapes this belief: some kids are more wired for social skills, some less. Different kids, different parenting strategies.
I didn't say shaming, BTW.
DeeDee
