I suggested that maybe for English class (he goes to school in French and in English they are learning the names of animals, whereas he can read novels in English) I could ask that he have different work, since he had a note come home that he was "disruptive" in this class. This sounded like a major punishment to him (no, please Mom, I promise not to disrupt the class, please don't talk to my teacher about giving me different work . . . )
Any advice welcome.
I think you have to 'over-rule' him on this one. Meet in secret if possible, but the teacher needs to be cued that he's in the wrong classroom during that hour. If you need to give DS notice that you have an independent perspective and will be talking to the teacher, that's fine too - you'll get a chance to praise his ability to handle his strong feeling while he has a tantrum but
doesn't X,Y or Z.
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