sorry if I am not clear, may be i want my child to more expressive and i wish she (we) put(s) more time into that rather than hours and hours of reading at home. That way our time and her time will be utilized better
what really bothered me ..... reading books is her very best thing. If she can not succeed in that, what about other things......that is the reason i felt like that, still doing so.
It sounds like she
is succeeding at reading. She's just not succeeding yet at being thrust into situations that make her nervous, caused by your self-confessed bragging.
Why do you think your or her time would be better utilized if she were more outgoing at this stage? What does her apparent shyness have to do with your time utilization? Aren't you just really put out because you felt embarrassed? If so, I think you need to re-evaluate your priorities. I mean these words as kindly as possible.
Also, she may be especially self-conscious about her intellectual abilities. Maybe you should talk to her about that. I think you can find plenty of ways to encourage her to be more outgoing, without focusing on her reading etc.
I would personally tend to differ with you that being a manager or making a lot of money is the only way (or even the best way, or perhaps even a very good way) to define ultimate success in life. I would also tend to differ on your evaluation of your daughter, and probably on what gifted people are "good for" in general.
