Originally Posted by intparent
One of them was making a rule a few years ago that D has to order for herself in a restaurant. If she can't talk to the waitress, she can't eat. ... This was sooo hard for her. But now she does it. Babysteps...

Intparent, I love this strategy.

I often give my kids small, clearly defined jobs of this kind that stretch their skills. Pay at the supermarket (yes, you have to talk to the checker and make eye contact, but then you get to count the change! smile. Order audibly in the restaurant. And so on.

If you know what skills they're lacking, you can be strategic about working in real-life practice for those skills, and voila, over time they do improve.

DeeDee