Although you have pulling her out mid-year as an option, of course it builds up the idea that if something in life is uncomfortable, then it can be walked away from. This isn't the worst lesson you can teach, but given that your DH is not yet firmly on your side, then perhaps a better alternative is to 'fight' the system and see if you can get a full gradeskip or subject accelerations. ...It's hard to tell from your post if she is really at the 'pull her at any cost' stage, or if you have the rest of the year to model going after difficult things (a grade skip) and then keep her home next year. Grinity
Nice Post Kriston. I love hearing how your developed your relationship with your DS's grandmother.
I don't exactly know what I meant by saying that a mid-year pull 'builds up the idea' - it think I was trying to say that there are potential downsides and that each situation has to be weighed individually. My thought for AMS was that if she was already good at fighting difficult battles, then she would have told DH to get
with her and MIL to 'can it' a long time ago.
Actually the lesson that some situations can and must be walked away from (like in your son's situation) is a wonderful lesson. I just know how hard it's been with my own son and afterschool activities to walk that line between 'not wanting to raise a quitter' and 'not wanting to keep my son in a situation that feels wrong to him.' In our situation it is at the point where he is too big to 'force' anymore in anything less than dire situations. This is one of the things that I resent about how most current school systems treats gifted kids.
Fact is that many of our little gifties are very bossy and so logical that is it so easy to grant them more adult discretion that
weI should. It's been a major challenge for me to honor my son's individuality without letting him run the show. I don't get the sense that you have had that challenge so far. Personally, I'm the most 'ballsy' female I know locally, and I'm still a 'pushover!' So frustrating.
Anyway, AMS, we'd love to hear more about how things have been for your daughter in the classroom and what you try and how it works out. We are all feeling our way here, with lots of tender spots as we go.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
