Net - if you were in our home, you would see him getting powerful, meaningful consequences that show him both what expectations are and why he should keep working to meet them. And he does.
suevv, have you shared your methods of assigning consequences at home with your child's teachers? I am sure that all teachers know and accept that "one size fits all" punishment does not work and they also want what is best for the child - so, how can a teacher know what the right fit is? For e.g., running around and causing disruption in a classroom where the kid is expected to sit at his desk (in 4th grade, not K). What does the teacher do under those circumstances? My son was in such a situation and he just could not focus or concentrate when a boy used to noisily run around in circles and make funny noises, crack jokes etc. - especially during test taking. My son was not the only one in the class that got affected by that. The teacher followed the school handbook which has rules for these situations. I am curious to know what kind of consequences should be set for such incidents for such a kid. This kid is PG and has overexcitabilities. And we are close friends with this family. I am asking in the hope that I can offer some help to them, because I feel for the parents as well.