suevv - love your last two posts.
This isn't about giving gifted kids a free pass and/or not disciplining them. It is about building their skills so that they are able to handle their sometimes intense emotions.
All of the discipline, consequences, sticker charts and rewards aren't going to help if the child doesn't have the needed skills. My DD figured this stuff out mostly on her own while for DS we have had to work really, really, really hard at it with him - they are very different kids. I know we've been judged (and likely still will be) when he hasn't been at his best but I also know that he's come a long way and that the meltdowns are much less frequent and far less spectacular than they would have been without the work.
