I am so sorry things are like this right now, Pemberley. {{{{Hugs}}}} I agree with Howler, that is, get a conference with just the teacher - make sure it doesn't turn into an iep. I know this isn't helpful but I do not trust schools at all. And we haven't been through half of what you have. I think our 2E children are just too difficult/complicated for them to understand - they just can't deal with not having a "box." This is why I turn down any "observations" or "consultations" by the district anymore no matter how nice and how much they tell me "it is for DS"... they always seem to have their own agenda and it seems NEVER to be in the best interest of the child. Not that I am saying this is any way your fault - just saying you can not flippin' trust them. I can have a cordial rel'p with DS's teacher but I do not trust her at all. Sometimes I feel paranoid and then I read stuff like this...
My DS's school wanted to do a FBA recently of him. Why? I have no idea. They just observed him for attention and we figured out when and exactly how much attention is waning. I am lucky that turned out alright and it turned out he's not nearly as bad as they were representing. He is not in trouble, not a discipline problem (other than really very minor normal stuff). Now they want to do an FBA? WHy? I find it suspicious - it's like whatever they were hoping to get out of the attention observations they didn't get it. They are after something. I just don't know what. They were all like "oh you can meet with the behaviorist and get comfortable, see if you can trust her." Yeah, okay. I pretended to entertain the idea and then declined consent. I am sure the FBA-lady is all prepped and ready for me. LOL ... And by whom is this woman paid? For whom does this woman work? Yeah, thought so . Will she "observe" and document" every time a para-professional or teacher makes disparaging comments to my son about his disability in front of everyone? Every time one of them shames him for his disability while refusing him his accommodations and see how that affects his behavior? (Like what JUST happened a few days ago when DS's language arts teacher refused to give him his accommodations despite his asking for them, and told him "Please, it's just a little worksheet." And this is the second time she has refused to give DS is accommodations and refused to allow him access in some way to the lesson. DS had to sit out the lesson because he could not keep up with the writing and no one seems to know how to scan worksheets and let him do it on the computer ... In fact, no one seems to know how to teach at all unless they have a gosh-darn worksheet. God forbid we do SOMETHING other than an F'ing worksheet!) How about we get someone to do a functional behavioral assessment of the prejudiced teachers and staff? Let's do one of how they treat disabled and learning disabled children. Belittling them. Making sarcastic comments. Being so very reluctant to give them their accommodations even when its not really any skin off of their nose! How about that? Yeah, I didn't think that would be part of it. No, it's all about trying to prove that DS has atypical behavior. I know he is "atypical" you morons! He is physically disabled and has an LD (he CAN NOT WRITE... he spends all day where all anyone does and wants him to do is write and he CAN NOT physically do it) but has a very gifted IQ and exceptionally gifted VCI. Yeah - shocking that he'd be a bit atypical under those circumstances.
Sorry I totally went off there.
I despise them all, Pemberley, really I do - we're just lucky they are no longer allowed to beat them.
