If you have the money to spare, I don't see anything wrong with getting an IQ test. GT and bright kids seem to enjoy it, although you did mention something about anxiety. If the anxiety comes with testing, then that might be something to consider. I would recommend telling her that you are going to do some tests to see how her brain works and how she thinks.
I can relate to several of your comments. I remember before I found this discussion board, I had stopped talking about my kiddo's achievements to other parents. It is very isolating to not have anyone to talk with, and I hope you feel comfortable sharing anything you want here. Many of us probably share your experiences.
Also, I remember wondering what in the world I was doing testing my then-4yo, but DH and I felt like we didn't want him to have the same kind of school experience we had when we were kids, and DS seemed even more advanced than we were. It turned out that we have been able to use the scores and the report to advocate for our DS and help us decide what type of school situation would be best for him. (By the way, I recommend option 1 with the report/meeting).
But as others have said, even without an IQ test, I think it is a good idea to use what you have -- the MAP scores and other info showing what your DD can do -- to try to advocate for more challenging materials. Since the teacher is not receptive, it may be good to try to gather samples from advanced stuff your DD does at home to show what she is capable of. If you give specific examples of areas where you think your DD needs more on another thread, folks here can probably give some helpful suggestions (sometimes just sending in different worksheets is a quick and easy fix).
ETA: posted this before seeing your response above -- if your school is completely nonresponsive, then my suggestions re: advocacy may not help....
Last edited by st pauli girl; 12/06/12 09:04 AM.
