Originally Posted by ABQMom
[quote=Wyldkat] Now, if it boiled over into her kids creating unreasonable situations for your kids where she expected you to back up her parenting style, that is a different story.

I totally agree with this. Unless this is the case, I think instead of spending time and energy ruminating on what a bad mother she is, I would concentrate on yourself and your children. You can always lead by example - it's more powerful than a lecture on how you think she is screwing up.