He still went to K a grade level or two above the other kids in both reading and math. I think it is right to consider what it is about your DS that does not make him fit fit their program, but also to think about what is not right with that program that does not fit your DS. 3 also seems really young for kids to start judging other kids to me - so the teachers must be doing a great job of convincing them that he is a trouble maker.
This is why we pulled Mr W. He was totally bored. Working at a 2nd grade level in Prek. And would not and could not "follow the rules." The other Kids will pick up on what adults feel even if the adults do not say it. If the "prblem child's" ego is strong enough, they will reject the adult and it then becomes a contest of wills, or they will regress. I do think they are harmed even in the first case and start to internalize the insinuation that they are troublemakers.
For example. I had a chance to observe Mr W with both his prek and the K classes together at an outing and Mr W was looking at everything, moving around a lot to get looks, and asked a ton of questions, and made comments. If you did not notice that he was very curious you would think he was misbehaving. There was just one other kid who moved around a bit and not at all to the degree he did. He completely circled the group looking at everything on the walls and in the displays. The other kids just stood around.
I am reminded on the time we looked at daycares for 1 year olds and the kids in his "room" looked drugged compared to him. This trend of his activity and mental awareness has continued in comparison with his peers.
The other thing is that DW and I are used to his level of energy but when he was younger it just exhausted us. Now we see it as normal. I can see how it would exhaust and exasperate another adult.
I can see how very easy it is for a PG kid to just withdraw.
