I agree with Lorel's comment about the competitiveness. I find this board to be incredibly supportive, not at all competitive. In fact, it's somewhat comforting for me to see how hugely more advanced so many of the other children are on this board. And, whether I'm looking at Ruf levels or test scores, DS is what DS is, and there's nothing I can or would want to do about it other than support him for both his strengths and weaknesses - and before I happened on this board, I didn't know that he needed support for his strengths.
I feel for you, Ren, however, living in the ultra-competitive world of NYC. Hard not to get drawn into it when people, like my friends, parents of twins, are advised to apply to 10-15 preschools to ensure at least one acceptance.
