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My kids are very self motivated. I talk about doing work that feels right to them and learning by mistakes.

Let them pour milk at the table and if they spill - no big deal. Let them fix their mistake and clean it up. There is lots of mileage in this. I frequently talk to them about enjoying the proud feeling from doing well.

I would suggest avoiding the power struggles. This one is still hard for me. My son would get my daughter to go anywhere when she was little with a marching parade song. Talking in a fun way can be motivational. Get some parenting books for inspiration on cooperation.

I hope this helps you. good luck.