Twinkle Toes! A big hug goes out to you along with a wish that somehow you miraculously are able to take a long spa day and recharge. :-)

I can relate to your situation. I have two intense children who are now 7 and 9. No one really ever wanted to say ADHD back when they were younger but they are being evaluated now. Not to say that your DD has ADHD not 100% my two do. We will have to wait to see if medication changes anything - haven't started yet.

I still dread parties, grocery stores, doctor visits etc. because I am never sure if my two (especially my DD7) will be "on" and charming and wonderful or "off" and as you say impertinent and in our case bossy and overwhelming to others.

It IS exhausting and sometimes I feel so isolated because I feel like I am being judged as a parent. I can tell you that while we have some impact as parents, a lot is genetic. I have two older (19 & 21) and they had a different father and were bright, easy going, easy to raise boys. These two have been different since day one.

Keep venting here and my only tried and true advice is to try to get breaks for yourself AND find other playmates who are also "more" with parents who get it.

Yours in exhaustion,
Breakaway