Jen,
I get the Mommy Instinct thing, and I do think it is okay for you to go in and give him a hug. I do do this with my DD. But, I think it works out best once she has had some alone time to feel things and then calm down. Once she has calmed down, I go in and give her a hug. Sometimes I'll talk with her about her feelings or what exactly happened, IF I feel that bringing it up won't send her back into her crying. Other times I'll just hug her and not say anything really, just letting her know that I love her and that we're all ready to move on and forgive and forget. Hang in there!
