Aww, hugs to your DD, greenlotus. That is so hard. FWIW, DYS DD10 would probably love your DD. She'd chat her up about Minecraft and not care one whit about beautification of any variety.
Can't big sis help "bridge the gap" a bit by helping your DD meet some like-minded 6th graders? I know that you probably don't want to put that on your older DD, but it would be a "kind sibling" move. My mom was grade-skipped into her brother's grade...I think the only thing that he ever "helped" her with (according to family lore) was bringing and setting loose snakes at a girl's birthday party...
