Greenlotus, I feel your pain. My dd is only 6 but going through some of this. We talked to the teacher and my dd was signed up for a friendship club that will meet once weekly. From reading your earlier posts, looks like your dd has gone thru this before as well starting from kindergarten. Isn't her sister in the same grade now? Would she be able to help? Most schools realize that middle school is tough and have support infrastructure in place for all the kids to help adjust. Does her school have anything?