It is possible that when you've never worried about your basic needs-- for safety, food, shelter, etc.-- that you wind up in a place where verbal interactions might loom larger in relative importance.
A few posts by others may indicate a similar theory. However, is it possible that the inverse may be true?
Might an emphasis on:
- developing vocabulary,
- understanding and being able to articulate varying degrees of concepts,
- using precise language,
- and having a personal word bank large enough to be able to rephrase as needed for clarity,
help bring about circumstances in which a person is better able to:
- maintain positive interpersonal relationships (including with those having a different background and knowledge base),
- negotiate and self-advocate,
- be welcomed in a variety of social circles,
- and influence the ability to position one's self on a positive path to attaining/maintaining safety, food, shelter, etc?
Decades of immigrants have taken this approach, highly valuing the myriad educational opportunities and the mixing/mingling of various regions, ethnicities, and SES which is commonplace in the USA. Enhancing one's ability to communicate may enhance one's environment. Expanding one's vocabulary may be a key component.
Getting beyond an initial internal emotional
reaction to a stimulus and processing it intellectually before making a
response may be made easier with practice - the types of practice which may come from exposure to a rich array of positive and negative experiences, both in-person and vicariously such as through reading books, conversing with others, etc. This may also include being exposed to a broad variety of concepts and ideas at the post-secondary level, as mentioned in the article: Without such exposure individuals may lose resilience.
I don't deny that for some individuals the word "hate" might well seem threatening
The definition of hate, found online, includes:
"Hatred (or hate) is a deep and emotional extreme dislike. It can be directed against individuals, groups, entities, objects, behaviors, or ideas. Hatred is often associated with feelings of anger, disgust and a disposition towards hostility." Some may say that a widespread/commonplace use or over-reliance on words incorporating extreme emotions of anger/hostility may create a more angry, hostile environment.
This may be akin to "
smacking the oobleck with a spoon and creating an unyielding solid," which works against one's self.
