Gifted Issues Discussion homepage Forums General Discussion The Atlantic takes on post-secondary PC/coddling

Different than the article's discussion of
- Trigger Warnings required on some campuses prior to delving into curriculum,
- and the concern for micro-aggressions,
your friend's use of the word "hate", which you see as:
- refreshing "directness" VS passive-aggressive
may be seen by some as one or more of the following:
- emotional reaction against an entire work VS taking the time to compose a well-articulated intellectual response,
- thinking out loud VS having a filter, and boundaries,
- shooting from the hip VS caring enough to think and process beforehand,
- rigid thinking VS flexible thinking,
- close-mindedness VS open-mindedness,
- gravitating toward the negative VS being able to find the good,
- attacking VS being vulnerable in discussing perspectives,
- out-of-control rant VS normal give-and-take of asking questions & listening to others,
- lack of skill to deconstruct and analyze VS having acquired and practiced the skill of deconstructing and analyzing,
- not interested in finding commonality and areas of agreement VS genuinely liking the other book club members,
- lack of social skill and theory of mind VS demonstrating equal interest in what others think and why,
- a conversation ender VS a conversation opener.

This does not necessarily follow along the lines of SES or ethnicity, as you alluded.

It is possible that your friend may have grown accustomed to making brief replies, if earlier in life she has not had much opportunity to engage in lengthy back-and-forth conversation with audiences such as book club members who are interested in the variety of things which she may have to say... conversations where no particular view is "right" or "wrong", but the focus is on self-discovery.

She may find that she very much enjoys the luxury of asking questions of others about what they liked, challenging herself to deconstruct a work, and finding the good.

Possibly best done by exploring ones' thoughts internally, then using a filter and boundaries to express one's thoughts intellectually rather than at a visceral emotional level. This ties back to the theme of the article. The article discusses the benefits of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and lists some Common Cognitive Distortions.