Originally Posted by aquinas
If she is meeting a need that is too complex for her to communicate politely or which is beyond her awareness, coaching on appropriate ways to express herself and gentle discussions with a parent will provide a better outlet for the upset. Critiquing and punishing the behaviour without communicating a commitment to help the child will just reduce future communication between the parent and child, erode trust, and reduce the effectiveness of future parental interventions.
Well said.