Dee Dee - fabulous idea about the behavior addendum with steps to follow. That would help. And I had no idea there was such a thing as perspective training. I will look into it! And, yes, the psych was really adept even in an hour about asking things like relative moralism - my son's willingness to bend or ignore rules he has deemed stupid. He talked to him about gray morals - the areas outside of black and white boundaries and that he didn't stop to assess if there was harm or problems caused to others when he decided a rule had no purpose.