HowlerKarma - thanks so much. Yes, I feel I have done so much soul searching to really "know" what to do. My husband and I will never really know if we made the right choice, but I have to do what my heart is telling me. I know there is no perfect fit, and trying to guess at what is the closest fit is hard. But yes, I need to look closer at the perfectionism aspect, and keep that in touch too.