I think most ALL kids (and adults!)are capable of having a meltdown/tantrum/whatever, if they think that will get them off the hook or get them what they want etc, if other "approaches" aren't working for them!!
I know several autistic kids who do this- and I would venture to say that for these kids it is a "learned behavior" b/c when they have a tantrum? when they explode/act out? The mom gives in. Every time! And even if she doesn't give in, she still in a way does- b/c while she is yelling or arguing with kiddo- he's still doing just what he wanted to be still doing- usually playing a video game or maybe not wanting to go inside a building etc.
*I'm not trying to get into parenting debate or that these gals may need gentle reminders that consistency /following thru etc is important, ***trust me- I tell them! (very gently and only if they ask my opinion/advice)
Also, yes agree that #1 is setting clear goals/outcomes in way child understands, then following through- but for outbursts etc, finding the kids TRIGGER- very important. And then learning what works best to avoid setting that trigger off, o how to get around it or even get thru it.
For my DS6 when younger if he started to show increased signs of anxiety, there was always a trigger.
I think I got off topic....
Anyways, Thank you for book suggestion,
I'm going to check this out from library also, I love reading new stuff,new ideas. Can always learn something new that will be helpful
