Originally Posted by ultramarina
because those are a bit outside of the typical behavior concerns the model is designed for. (We have a lot of problems with idiopathic rudeness/anger, which isn't a "She wants X and we want Y" situation.)

Yes. We have found that, for all we went into parenting wanting to be those gentle negotiating parents, our DS did much better with a parent who is transparently in charge. We had to change our style to get him to behave and learn.

There is no one method that will work for every kid, IMO.

DeeDee