Thanks for all the replies (and hope).
Our son didn't qualify for an IEP because his achievement is too high (even in timed writing, he is above-average), but he does qualify for a 504. The district wants us to wait a year and do more testing before we finalize the diagnosis. His problems may be due to asynchronous development and avoidance due to perfectionism. He is too young to be sure.
It's more difficult for him having these problems because he is grade-skipped, and he struggles to keep up with the older kids in writing. It's always a balancing act.
All of your suggestions are great.
HWT is working for us so far. He gets frustrated and his perfectionism kicks in, but he is slowly making progress. Just this week, he drew his first picture with the objects colored in! At restaurants, he reads the coloring books, but he has never colored in them, so this was a milestone for us!
And don't let me get started on his ability to use utensils!
Or to button his own pants. Or to unzip his backpack.
He can add fractions, but putting on socks....no way!
~sigh~
