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HowlerKarma articulated something some posts back that I'd never seen articulated other than by me: in my terms, the poisonousness of believing both:
1) if you have to work at it, it doesn't count (because you can't compare with the people who can do it easily);
2) if you don't have to work at it, it doesn't count (because you should be doing something harder)
I was taught both these things fairly explicitly and with full conviction, one by each parent! With hindsight, it's shocking how many years it took me to see what was going on...