your DD is the "curve-breaker" for her peers (this cannot possibly make a person a lot of friends unless they are willing to help others cheat)
she is learning that 100% is not only reasonably attainable, but also that it is EXPECTED-- for her, anyway
she is learning that there is nobody else as capable as she is within her peer group.
Yes, high school as bloodsport!
This was my high school experience. I suppose, in hindsight, it's not the best idea to get a rush of joy when you have just destroyed your competition academically. I suppose that doesn't really teach pro-social behavior.
It's not just 1st generation immigrants.
My "arrived in the early 1700s" parents basically expected this of me given that I was significantly more intelligent than my peers and was fully capable of sandblasting them.
I was tired and completely burnt out by the time I got to college, so eventually I just stopped doing anything at all.
However, college was free.
