One last thought to add - re seeing signs of ASD in behaviors, seeing those things change over time, and feeling like things are resolved etc as time goes by. We kinda fell into a trap of not realizing how much *we* were compensating for our ds' quirks at home. Everything seemed normal and he seemed to be functioning really well - but once he was thrown into a situation that he couldn't handle, he imploded with anxiety. It wasn't until after he had his diagnoses and we'd learned a lot about what his challenges were that we realized we were subconsciously already accommodating at home as well as being convinced that his "normal" was the "normal" simply because we were around him and used to him.
Um, "used to him" doesn't sound very loving and parental - just wanted to add that my children are the sunshine in my life and I love them all to the moon and back
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