Originally Posted by Val
Originally Posted by Bostonian
A general question is to what extent parents should try to influence and regulate the personal lives of their grown-up children.

Ahh, well...this thread isn't about adults. The OP was referring to a thirteen-year-old girl. I'm not sure that this is the right thread for a general discussion about parents and their adult children.

By "grown-up" I meant post-puberty and having the mental age of an adult. Gifted children can reach the latter milestone in their early teens.

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