I really hate it when people point-blank ask me about my kids' abilities. And yes, that has happened. They are both very verbally advanced, which I guess makes it obvious to the casual observer. Other parents know they are in gifted programming and accelerated at school, but they do not need to know specifics so that they can compare my kid to theirs. I usually try to be polite but vague. My husband and I have a "need to know" policy. The only people who know my kids' IQ scores/test scores/grades, are the people who need to know for our daughters' well being. This includes immediate family, their pediatrician, and school personnel. It's not any other mom's business. Not to be rude, but jeez. I wouldn't ask how much your husband makes, so why would you ask about my kid's test scores?