For us our journey with DD9 so far has involved a great deal of "Oh you mean that's not normal? *I* do that", alternating between DH and I who the trait came from. DH and I are both probably around MG, each with LD issues that we did overcome/learn to live with, and our poor DD got BOTH sets of issues. We survived, we have turned into functional adults with interesting careers. But school was a thoroughly miserable experience for both of us and neither of us managed to actually fully complete our degrees at Uni. There are so many levels on which our lives could have been easier had our parents had a clue what was going on with us and been more able to be appropriately supportive, or had we had more understanding at least of our "quirks", and that's without actually doing anything to actually remediate our various issues. For me personally, understanding what is happening makes so much difference to my ability to cope with issues. I can't honestly even imagine what life might have been like with actual treatment for some of our issues!

So from my perspective I am SO glad that we do know as much as we do about where my DD is at, I will keep pursuing more information and I do expect it to help her her. I have to say that in my DDs case she was not functioning at all in a school environment, which is how we started down this path in the first place, so not diagnosing her issues would have left her illiterate. She has a 43 point (83 percentile point) gap between her VCI and her WMI. So it's hard perhaps to compare to a child whose blend of G/LD produces closer to "average" or "high average" performance than my DDs does.

I don't expect that she's going to suddenly start performing years above her age but I do hope that she will be able to both master the academics at least normal for her age AND that she learn all sort of executive function skills that no-one in my DHs family seem to have mastered. Investigating why she seemed so bright and was failing so miserably also provided answers to a whole lot of issues that explained how hard it was just to get through the day with DD. She is SO exhausting to parent and understanding how exhausting it must be for her just to exist has made us more tolerant and less harsh on ourselves and her for "not doing better" (and here I mean not doing better at teaching her to get out the door on time in the morning with everything she needs, or not doing better at spending 30 mins alone).

Last edited by MumOfThree; 05/27/11 09:12 PM.