My perspective is a little different. For some kids any amount of adult investment is misread by the kid as pressure. So, my suggestion would be don't ask him if he can read and don't engage in struggles over school work that requires it. Give him space to get to the place where he is more comfortable with it. If he responds well to structure and intellectual engagement by all means give that to him - but it doesn't need to be reading words or using counters to do math. We found games were really helpful during this time period. The books by Peggy Kaye - Games for Math, Games for Reading, etc. were particularly helpful.
