Okay, sorry about the delay, it's been a really full-on week this week. There are a lot of things going on right now for all of us and none of this is helping. It is too easy to just let it go for another day because it's another thing to do. Which is of course, not good enough - especially since that always makes things worse for later on in the day and the next day, etc.

I just wanted to say I don't think he has to do addition with counters or read or anything, they were just easy to understand examples of him avoiding effort. He seems to do the same thing with a lot of different areas.

So the plan?

Well, as I have said, structure and routine. I have always had a loose routine but we have always had to be very routine with DS. So we need to kick back into that. It's a pain though because he always fights it a little bit at first. So I have to find some energy for that somewhere.

So the first part is I need to get some self nurturing happening, yes. There are a few other signs that I need that anyway I have no idea how THAT is going to happen though. Sigh.

Part of that routine will be 'learning time' which will be not really lessons, but as many hands on activities as I can manage and find! Something like this style (http://www.homeschooldiner.com/guide/hands_on_learning.html). (Suggestions would be welcome!)We will also use radwild's reading of nonfiction books (something we always have done, but I'll ramp it up a bit!) and games. (Side question: How do I know if I'm aiming those things too hig or too low?)

I think I will try to find someone, a teen or something that can do something with him. I'm thinking maybe hands on science experiments or something. The stuff I am really struggling with at the moment. Is that what you meant, Grinity? We definitely need to create a community for him, and that is hard. But somehow it needs to be done. It's his personality.

I am currently trying to convince DH that interstate travel with a newborn is a good idea, LOL, to attend a conference. He is (understandably) skeptical.


Originally Posted by Grinity
Good news is that at age 4, they can look really terrible one week, and still respond to you making better choices amazingly quickly the next week. Your learning curve will be almost as rapid as his!


I'm hanging on to that, Grinity!

I know that most you don't need to know all of this, but I need to put it in writing and I'm hoping sending my intentions out into the universe will help me actually find the energy to implement them smile

Thank you!