Katelyn'sMom, Thank you, I needed to hear that. I'm, glad it's not just me.
Before starting all of this I gave her an assessment and she is clearly in 2nd grade level work. The sad thing is she was basically there at age 2 but because I freaked out about a lot of this and didn't want to 'push' her and given her personality she didn't move forward.
I understand this. We have been doing things sporadically, but not consistently. I have been trying to leave it him to lead, and he's not really. He just tantrums and fights when he isn't getting enough. I guess I was expecting him to ask with his words, since he is so verbal, and it is only recently I have come to realize that he doesn't really know exactly what it is he needs, so he can't ask for it.
And yes, Grinity, it is the thirst that I have noticed is disappearing a bit. It makes me sad

I am trying to avoid struggling with him over doing things. as PassThePotatoes said, I know I hated to be watched doing things and all of that. I'm just really worried because I don't think I am providing him with ideas at his level. Mostly because I'm having trouble judging that. But the games could work, he is very motivated by games right now.
I'm going to have to think some more, but I am battling some sleep deprivation right now, so I might come back to it.
Thank you.