Not that it's her decision entirely, but have you asked your DD what she thinks? Maybe she would like to move to first grade where she could relax a bit and make new friends. She could be afraid to say that. Maybe she doesn't like having to work so hard right now but feels like she's where she belongs. Maybe to her the friends she has in the grade she's in are worth the extra work right now. Maybe they aren't. Does she feel like she's having trouble because the work is too hard or because she's not used to working at all? Can she brainstorm ideas for how to make school her "ideal" situation? Does she like what she's learning? Could you and then she maybe sit in on a 1st grade class and see how that would fit your DD? Could you sit in on her current class a few times and see if that helps you get a clearer picture? Right now you only have your perspective on how things are at home and the teacher's perspective of how things are at school. You need your DD's perspective of both school and home, your first-hand perspective of school, and the teacher's perspective (via what you tell him/her) of the situation at home.
