I was never pushed to stretch myself, confront challenges, or overcome failures in elementary school and have been paying for it ever since (my mom actually declined elementary grade skips for me because, as she put it, "You wouldn't have been at the head of the class anymore"). By middle school, I was already a nervous wreck who was more concerned about maintaining straight As and setting the curve on every test than I was about learning anything. So, based on my own experience, I say you're being a great parent! If anything, I might recommend easing off of the tutoring and worrying less about getting your daughter caught up with the other kids. Sometimes it's better to be behind! As long as your daughter is learning, making progress and reaping rewards for her efforts, I wouldn't worry so much about where she is relative to the other kids, especially if she's happy socially and in a school that gets her and is working with you.
