Thank you guys for the comments...I just met DS6 for lunch on his first day of school and I was SO proud of him this morning...he was so worried and scared that he looked like he was going to throw up everywhere but he was trying to be so brave. When he came out for lunch he was so excited to see me but then his smile faded...when I asked him what was up he told me he has never been so embarressed....the teacher uses a behavior chart that is on the wall for all to see...each kid gets 4 different colored cards (white for excellent, yellow for good, ....red for bad) he said his card was the only card in the whole class on yellow and that he was so upset that everyone has made fun of him for being the only one on yellow. HOW IN THE WORLD CAN A TEACHER DO THIS TO A KID ON THE FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL!!!!! I asked him what happened and he said he was supposed to walk down the carpet to find a spot to sit and he didn't understand that he was supposed to pick a row...he started out walking down the green row but then realized what she had meant and went to the blue row (blue is his favorite color) she told him that he couldn't change his mind once he started walking down a row and that he had to sit there and he got uspet because he was confused and didn't understand what she had meant and then he said he kicked at a reading book that was displayed on the floor....so she changed his color. Ok, granted he shouldnt have kicked anything but here is a perfectionistic kid, with OEs, and sensory disorder who wants to know what is expected of him because he thrives on understanding the schedule/way things work and then when he figured out that he didn't do it correctly and didn't understand he was frustrated. He hasn't been in a school/classroom setting for almost 1.5 years....you would think the teacher would cut him some slack especially knowing everything we have spoken with her about. So I am just hoping and praying that this teacher allows children to earn their colors back because it wouldn't seem fair that he has been great all day long except for this incident and he has to stay on yellow all day?????? He said he colored an owl picture this morning and did "baby work" but that he was trying "really, really hard". I am not holding out much hope on this situation....I am just going to let it play out for a few weeks and see if things improve. I am just floored that the teacher did the color thing on the first day of school to him
