So maybe another thing to look for is, do other parents/stangers tell you that your child is advanced/smart? I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me starting at when my now DD6 was 2-2 1/2 year old, to the point I started wondering, how do they know? There was one time she just said a sentence and then sat down at a table and a parent came up to me and asked me if she was academically advanced.
I have had many experiences like this. Once DD climbed up at the playground and said something like, "Look at me. I'm way up here." And another parent commented on how amazing her speech is. I was pretty surprised, because while I am aware that her speech is off the charts, I did not think that that was particularly impressive. Gosh, they should hear the lengthy, detailed stories she makes up...and the words she uses, correctly, like "prerogative" and "deconstruct."
I'm sure there is no ill intent but when these sorts of threads sometimes come up on gifted lists it seems like a real slam against the many parents who have been in the situation of looking at these lists and realizing their kid might be in trouble. And, to be clear that can include gifted kids.
I have also seen a few threads that start out like this and then devolve into a sort of mocking tone. (And I am not saying that that has happened with this thread.)
There was one on another board that actually sort of hurt my feelings. It was about a fine motor skill that my DD3 had only just mastered, only a bit late on the milestone charts, and it didn't take many of the "Gosh, can normal two year olds really not do that? My kid has been doing it since he was 3 months old," sort of comments before I started getting really bugged.
I mean, I think it is really great that their kids can do that so early, but saying that their kids can do something so early and then trying to claim that it is normal seems sort of insulting to those of us whose kids are on the late side.
I guess that is a bit off topic. And again, I am not saying that that is the case in this thread. I guess I just saw your post and it struck a chord with me.
