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You might take a look at some of the books published by APA's Magination Press, such as these on mindfulness, targeted at children and adolescents:

http://www.apa.org/pubs/magination/browse.aspx?query=subject:Mindfulness

Or this one on anxiety:

http://www.apa.org/pubs/magination/441B032.aspx

I haven't read all of them, but historically, their books have been well-written, with at least some useful elements.

I would affirm Portia's comment that addressing the anxiety generally comes first. Until he is emotionally available for learning, it won't matter how fabulous the school program is.