Is this article on dealing with power stress and the sacrifice syndrome of any help to you?
http://iveybusinessjournal.com/publ...ompassion-a-leaders-road-map-to-renewal/I too recommend getting her private lessons in her musical instrument. If possible, try out several instructors with her until she finds one that “clicks” with her. Just like she needs a different kind of instruction from typical kids in school, she likely needs that for playing her instrument. It's possible that the current instructions aren't adequate for helping her meet her personal standards, and she experiments on her own—which would explain the “squeaking” instrument and her frustration.
My intuition is that she is very talented in music, but inadequate instruction holds her back. Maybe she can easily meet the standards expected of her for an A if she cared for those, but her own standards are higher, and she knows the instructions she's given won't lead her there?
Intuition can be totally wrong, of course.
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