aquinas - hugs, and your DS is lucky to have you as a parent. I think a HG+ DC at 3 can be perplexing, especially when they have any "extreme" personality traits or asynchrony. I remember being perplexed by my own DC (and I still am, at times). I cannot give you any answers, but you are such an attentive, caring parent!

Happy Mother's Day...enjoy your amazing DS and a glass of wine, too!